Wednesday, May 18, 2011

52 Pickup: Not in That Shirt!

Remember, all 52 pickups are open to interpretation. My interpretation might not be the same as yours - make it yours, make it a mantra, make it life lived well.
This week the pickup is:

Seriously. When is the last time you dressed up - really dressed up? For yourself. Wore something you love and that looks great on you but for no occasion. Not for an interview, a big meeting, work or others. Not for a date, a performance, or a better restaurant dinner? When is the last time you dressed fabulously just for you?

Fabulous, of course, being a relative term. You can start small. If you are a work-from-home person, full time mom, or a retiree who wears yoga pants all the time, maybe today is the day to switch to a skirt, or those jeans that make you feel really great. If you dress up for work every day but find yourself in a rut maybe today is the day you think about adding some personality to your button-down shirt and slacks with an accessory or two. Maybe you dress pretty wonderfully all the time but have forgotten some wonderful shoes in the back of your closet.

Or maybe you rarely get dressed at all anymore. Maybe you're depressed, sick, apathetic, tired. Today, put some clothes on...any clothes, and a pair of shoes. If that's all you can do, that's ok. Go lie down again if you need to but you've made a great first step.

In reality this isn't about clothes - it's about investing in yourself. No, I don't mean expensive clothes - I mean taking the time to do something for you, taking that first step towards feeling great (or feeling normal again). 

So sometime this week stop yourself at the door. Give a little "Oh no you're not! Not in that shirt/shoes/pants!" reprimanding to yourself and take a moment for yourself. The power of a great pair of pants has little to do with the actual pants and a whole lot to do with how you feel, what you exude, and how your attitude improves. If all it takes are pants to make the day better then by all means, wear the pants!

Truth be told I had a few rounds in the ring with our old friend postpartum depression after I had my daughter. There were days I changed from one set of pajamas to another and other days where I didn't even get that far.

I finally started forcing myself to get dressed. Every day. No matter what. Including shoes - ok, actually sometimes slippers but, close enough. Some days just getting dressed was enough, others I would go out, do something. Each day was adding a little more, investing in myself (and, benefiting my family) a little more.

Thankfully that hurdle feels like it is long in the past now but even on days where I know we're not going anywhere we still get dressed, still make an effort, still take the time to be decent to ourselves - kiddo and I, hubby too. The dogs hate clothes so fine, they are exempted. 

Yesterday I added a great accessory to my outfit, today a shirt I love. Some days it is more than clothing - going the extra distance, but each day, a little something.

When is the last time you took that time for yourself, got dressed up or wore something you loved?
 Change your shirt, change your attitude, make the world a little better...


Ashley said...

Hmm. I've begun doing this some in the last year with jewelry. If I don't think about it, I can easily go weeks, months, years, wearing no jewelry or just my plain wedding band, maybe the same silver hoop earrings. I don't know why, but necklaces always make me feel like I'm WAY overdone, but I've been working on putting on and/or changing my earrings every day depending on my outfit. And pushing myself to find something besides plain silver hoops. I now have a nice little collection of inexpensive, colorful and funky earrings - and I get compliments on them, which make my day!

I also do bracelets occasionally, just colorful stones on stretchy thread . . . but they make me feel a little more professional and put together at work. My tendency, always, is to go more casual than I should. So I have to be very purposeful about whether I'm as dressed up as I should be. Jewelry has helped me upgrade quite a few outfits.

Tara said...

I've been trying to do this more the last few months. Particularly after you blogged THIS:

I have to admit it is a huge struggle for me to pull out my "nice" clothes. I know I miss out on a lot of the fun and energy of wearing those when I leave them to collect dust on the hanger. Thanks for the refresher course.

Brandi {not your average ordinary} said...

Tricia, you're so right! I really want to be someone who looks good all the time. But most of the time when I'm at school, I'm in jeans, and when I'm home I'm in my pjs. Even in the middle of the day. I need some more dresses. Definitely. I think that would help me start.