Wednesday, January 19, 2011

52 Pickup: 3/52

Remember, all 52 pickups are open to interpretation. My interpretation might not be the same as yours - make it yours, make it a mantra, make it life lived well.

This week the thought is:

How often do we assume an answer before we finish asking a question? This week it's all about asking without expectation.

My former boss said something to me once and it's stuck ever since: expectation is pre-determined disappointment. I won't even pretend that sunk in fully right didn't. Eventually though, it became more of a second nature thing...and though I am still chock-full of expectations one of them is not for gifts, rarely for favors, never for wild requests, and less so for deeply embedded role-assignments (job-wise, specifically)


When I got this beauty from my husband I was entirely surprised. Same goes for the magazines I asked my mom to bring back from Australia for me.

Letting go of expectations, asking without the expectation that what you ask for will be done/given/etc brings with it an incredible sense of fulfillment and gratitude. When you ask without expectation each favor, each gift, each "yes" you receive is doubly rewarding - it's a surprise, a gift, and a delight.

When you ask without expectation you receive twice: once with what you asked for and the second time with the joy at having been given something unexpected. That fulfillment you feel, it will show, and it will make the person who fulfilled your request feel full too...and who knows where all that positivity can go from there!

"You get in life what you have the courage to ask for." 
- Oprah


Jessika (Oh My! Handmade) said...

I love how once you start letting go of expectations you become open to accepting, then eventually loving things as they are & as they come. When you ask without expectation of a response even, then a lack of response becomes it's own answer that you can take what you need from. Thanks for the thought to ponder on this gray Wednesday.

k said...

Interesting! I think I need to try letting go of expectations for sure!